diff --git a/mem0/memory/graph_memory.py b/mem0/memory/graph_memory.py
index ec1cff960..a0c89cf76 100644
--- a/mem0/memory/graph_memory.py
+++ b/mem0/memory/graph_memory.py
@@ -174,6 +174,7 @@ class MemoryGraph:
 
         query = f"""
         MATCH (n {self.node_label} {{{node_props_str}}})-[r]->(m {self.node_label} {{{node_props_str}}})
+        WHERE r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true
         RETURN n.name AS source, type(r) AS relationship, m.name AS target
         LIMIT $limit
         """
@@ -291,10 +292,12 @@ class MemoryGraph:
             CALL {{
                 WITH n
                 MATCH (n)-[r]->(m {self.node_label} {{{node_props_str}}})
+                WHERE r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true
                 RETURN n.name AS source, elementId(n) AS source_id, type(r) AS relationship, elementId(r) AS relation_id, m.name AS destination, elementId(m) AS destination_id
                 UNION
                 WITH n  
                 MATCH (n)<-[r]-(m {self.node_label} {{{node_props_str}}})
+                WHERE r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true
                 RETURN m.name AS source, elementId(m) AS source_id, type(r) AS relationship, elementId(r) AS relation_id, n.name AS destination, elementId(n) AS destination_id
             }}
             WITH distinct source, source_id, relationship, relation_id, destination, destination_id, similarity
@@ -392,13 +395,15 @@ class MemoryGraph:
             source_props_str = ", ".join(source_props)
             dest_props_str = ", ".join(dest_props)
 
-            # Delete the specific relationship between nodes
+            # Soft-delete: mark relationship as invalid instead of removing it,
+            # enabling temporal reasoning over historical graph state.
+            # See: https://github.com/mem0ai/mem0/issues/4187
             cypher = f"""
             MATCH (n {self.node_label} {{{source_props_str}}})
             -[r:{relationship}]->
             (m {self.node_label} {{{dest_props_str}}})
-            
-            DELETE r
+            WHERE r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true
+            SET r.valid = false, r.invalidated_at = datetime()
             RETURN 
                 n.name AS source,
                 m.name AS target,
@@ -464,11 +469,16 @@ class MemoryGraph:
                 CALL db.create.setNodeVectorProperty(destination, 'embedding', $destination_embedding)
                 WITH source, destination
                 MERGE (source)-[r:{relationship}]->(destination)
-                ON CREATE SET 
-                    r.created = timestamp(),
-                    r.mentions = 1
+                ON CREATE SET
+                    r.created_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.updated_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.mentions = 1,
+                    r.valid = true
                 ON MATCH SET
-                    r.mentions = coalesce(r.mentions, 0) + 1
+                    r.mentions = coalesce(r.mentions, 0) + 1,
+                    r.valid = true,
+                    r.updated_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.invalidated_at = null
                 RETURN source.name AS source, type(r) AS relationship, destination.name AS target
                 """
 
@@ -508,11 +518,16 @@ class MemoryGraph:
                 CALL db.create.setNodeVectorProperty(source, 'embedding', $source_embedding)
                 WITH source, destination
                 MERGE (source)-[r:{relationship}]->(destination)
-                ON CREATE SET 
-                    r.created = timestamp(),
-                    r.mentions = 1
+                ON CREATE SET
+                    r.created_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.updated_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.mentions = 1,
+                    r.valid = true
                 ON MATCH SET
-                    r.mentions = coalesce(r.mentions, 0) + 1
+                    r.mentions = coalesce(r.mentions, 0) + 1,
+                    r.valid = true,
+                    r.updated_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.invalidated_at = null
                 RETURN source.name AS source, type(r) AS relationship, destination.name AS target
                 """
 
@@ -537,11 +552,16 @@ class MemoryGraph:
                 WHERE elementId(destination) = $destination_id
                 SET destination.mentions = coalesce(destination.mentions, 0) + 1
                 MERGE (source)-[r:{relationship}]->(destination)
-                ON CREATE SET 
+                ON CREATE SET
                     r.created_at = timestamp(),
                     r.updated_at = timestamp(),
-                    r.mentions = 1
-                ON MATCH SET r.mentions = coalesce(r.mentions, 0) + 1
+                    r.mentions = 1,
+                    r.valid = true
+                ON MATCH SET
+                    r.mentions = coalesce(r.mentions, 0) + 1,
+                    r.valid = true,
+                    r.updated_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.invalidated_at = null
                 RETURN source.name AS source, type(r) AS relationship, destination.name AS target
                 """
 
@@ -585,10 +605,18 @@ class MemoryGraph:
                 WITH source, destination
                 CALL db.create.setNodeVectorProperty(destination, 'embedding', $dest_embedding)
                 WITH source, destination
-                MERGE (source)-[rel:{relationship}]->(destination)
-                ON CREATE SET rel.created = timestamp(), rel.mentions = 1
-                ON MATCH SET rel.mentions = coalesce(rel.mentions, 0) + 1
-                RETURN source.name AS source, type(rel) AS relationship, destination.name AS target
+                MERGE (source)-[r:{relationship}]->(destination)
+                ON CREATE SET
+                    r.created_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.updated_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.mentions = 1,
+                    r.valid = true
+                ON MATCH SET
+                    r.mentions = coalesce(r.mentions, 0) + 1,
+                    r.valid = true,
+                    r.updated_at = timestamp(),
+                    r.invalidated_at = null
+                RETURN source.name AS source, type(r) AS relationship, destination.name AS target
                 """
 
                 params = {
diff --git a/tests/memory/test_graph_memory_soft_delete.py b/tests/memory/test_graph_memory_soft_delete.py
new file mode 100644
index 000000000..111345851
--- /dev/null
+++ b/tests/memory/test_graph_memory_soft_delete.py
@@ -0,0 +1,315 @@
+"""Tests for graph memory soft-delete behavior.
+
+Verifies that _delete_entities marks relationships as invalid (soft-delete)
+rather than permanently removing them, and that search/retrieval queries
+exclude soft-deleted relationships by default.
+
+See: https://github.com/mem0ai/mem0/issues/4187
+"""
+
+from unittest.mock import Mock, patch
+
+# Mock optional deps at module level so the import works across all Python
+# versions without triggering transitive C-extension reloads (numpy via
+# qdrant_client). This matches the pattern in test_memgraph_memory.py.
+_neo4j_mock = Mock()
+patch.dict("sys.modules", {
+    "langchain_neo4j": _neo4j_mock,
+    "rank_bm25": Mock(),
+}).start()
+
+from mem0.memory.graph_memory import MemoryGraph  # noqa: E402
+
+
+def _create_graph_memory():
+    """Create a MemoryGraph instance with mocked dependencies."""
+    with patch.object(MemoryGraph, "__init__", lambda self, *a, **kw: None):
+        mg = MemoryGraph.__new__(MemoryGraph)
+        mg.graph = Mock()
+        mg.graph.query = Mock(return_value=[])
+        mg.embedding_model = Mock()
+        mg.embedding_model.embed = Mock(return_value=[0.1] * 128)
+        mg.llm = Mock()
+        mg.node_label = ":Entity"
+        mg.threshold = 0.7
+        mg.llm_provider = "openai"
+    return mg
+
+
+class TestSoftDelete:
+    """Verify _delete_entities uses SET r.valid = false, not DELETE r."""
+
+    def test_delete_entities_sends_soft_delete_cypher(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg.graph.query.return_value = [
+            {"source": "Alice", "target": "Bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}
+        ]
+
+        mg._delete_entities(
+            [{"source": "alice", "destination": "bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}],
+            {"user_id": "user1"},
+        )
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        assert "SET r.valid = false" in cypher
+        assert "r.invalidated_at = datetime()" in cypher
+        assert "DELETE r" not in cypher
+
+    def test_delete_entities_only_targets_valid_edges(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg._delete_entities(
+            [{"source": "alice", "destination": "bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}],
+            {"user_id": "user1"},
+        )
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        assert "r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true" in cypher
+
+    def test_delete_entities_is_idempotent(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        item = [{"source": "alice", "destination": "bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}]
+        filters = {"user_id": "user1"}
+
+        mg.graph.query.return_value = [
+            {"source": "Alice", "target": "Bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}
+        ]
+        mg._delete_entities(item, filters)
+
+        mg.graph.query.return_value = []
+        mg._delete_entities(item, filters)
+
+        # Both calls should have the same WHERE filter
+        for c in mg.graph.query.call_args_list:
+            assert "r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true" in c[0][0]
+
+
+class TestSearchExcludesSoftDeleted:
+    """Verify search and get_all filter out soft-deleted relationships."""
+
+    def test_get_all_filters_soft_deleted(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg.get_all(filters={"user_id": "user1"}, limit=10)
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        assert "r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true" in cypher
+
+    def test_search_graph_db_filters_both_directions(self):
+        """_search_graph_db must filter soft-deleted edges in both outgoing and incoming queries."""
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg.graph.query.return_value = []
+
+        mg._search_graph_db(node_list=["alice"], filters={"user_id": "user1"})
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        # The UNION query has two MATCH branches — both must filter
+        occurrences = cypher.count("r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true")
+        assert occurrences >= 2, (
+            f"_search_graph_db has {occurrences} valid-filter(s) but needs >= 2 "
+            "(one for outgoing, one for incoming relationships)"
+        )
+
+    def test_delete_all_still_hard_deletes(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg.delete_all(filters={"user_id": "user1"})
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        assert "DETACH DELETE" in cypher
+
+
+class TestMergeResetsValidFlag:
+    """Verify MERGE in _add_entities sets r.valid = true.
+
+    Critical: after soft-delete, a MERGE that matches the existing
+    (invalidated) edge must reset valid=true, or the edge becomes
+    a zombie -- exists but invisible to queries.
+    """
+
+    def _run_add_entities(self, source_found, dest_found):
+        """Helper: call _add_entities with configurable node search results."""
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+
+        source_result = (
+            [{"elementId(source_candidate)": "src_id_1"}] if source_found else []
+        )
+        dest_result = (
+            [{"elementId(destination_candidate)": "dst_id_1"}] if dest_found else []
+        )
+
+        mg._search_source_node = Mock(return_value=source_result)
+        mg._search_destination_node = Mock(return_value=dest_result)
+
+        mg._add_entities(
+            [{"source": "alice", "destination": "bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}],
+            {"user_id": "user1"},
+            entity_type_map={},
+        )
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        return cypher
+
+    def test_merge_sets_valid_true_when_source_found(self):
+        cypher = self._run_add_entities(source_found=True, dest_found=False)
+        assert "r.valid = true" in cypher
+
+    def test_merge_sets_valid_true_when_dest_found(self):
+        cypher = self._run_add_entities(source_found=False, dest_found=True)
+        assert "r.valid = true" in cypher
+
+    def test_merge_sets_valid_true_when_both_found(self):
+        cypher = self._run_add_entities(source_found=True, dest_found=True)
+        assert "r.valid = true" in cypher
+
+    def test_merge_sets_valid_true_when_neither_found(self):
+        cypher = self._run_add_entities(source_found=False, dest_found=False)
+        assert "r.valid = true" in cypher
+
+    def test_merge_clears_invalidated_at_on_resurrection(self):
+        """When a soft-deleted edge is resurrected via MERGE, invalidated_at must be cleared.
+
+        Without this, a resurrected edge (valid=true) still carries stale
+        invalidated_at metadata, which corrupts temporal reasoning queries.
+        """
+        for label, src, dst in [
+            ("source found", True, False),
+            ("dest found", False, True),
+            ("both found", True, True),
+            ("neither found", False, False),
+        ]:
+            cypher = self._run_add_entities(source_found=src, dest_found=dst)
+            assert "r.invalidated_at = null" in cypher, (
+                f"MERGE path '{label}': ON MATCH SET does not clear r.invalidated_at. "
+                "Resurrected edges will have stale invalidation timestamps."
+            )
+
+
+class TestCypherConsistency:
+    """Verify all MERGE blocks use consistent property names and variable aliases."""
+
+    def _get_merge_cypher(self, source_found, dest_found):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg._search_source_node = Mock(
+            return_value=[{"elementId(source_candidate)": "id1"}] if source_found else []
+        )
+        mg._search_destination_node = Mock(
+            return_value=[{"elementId(destination_candidate)": "id2"}] if dest_found else []
+        )
+        mg._add_entities(
+            [{"source": "alice", "destination": "bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}],
+            {"user_id": "user1"},
+            entity_type_map={},
+        )
+        return mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+
+    def test_all_blocks_use_created_at_not_created(self):
+        """All MERGE blocks must use r.created_at, not r.created."""
+        for label, src, dst in [
+            ("source found", True, False),
+            ("dest found", False, True),
+            ("both found", True, True),
+            ("neither found", False, False),
+        ]:
+            cypher = self._get_merge_cypher(src, dst)
+            assert "r.created_at" in cypher, (
+                f"MERGE path '{label}': uses r.created instead of r.created_at"
+            )
+
+    def test_all_blocks_use_r_not_rel(self):
+        """All MERGE blocks must use 'r' as the relationship variable, not 'rel'."""
+        for label, src, dst in [
+            ("source found", True, False),
+            ("dest found", False, True),
+            ("both found", True, True),
+            ("neither found", False, False),
+        ]:
+            cypher = self._get_merge_cypher(src, dst)
+            assert "rel." not in cypher, (
+                f"MERGE path '{label}': uses 'rel' variable instead of 'r'"
+            )
+
+    def test_all_blocks_set_updated_at_on_create(self):
+        """All MERGE blocks must set r.updated_at on CREATE for consistent timestamps."""
+        for label, src, dst in [
+            ("source found", True, False),
+            ("dest found", False, True),
+            ("both found", True, True),
+            ("neither found", False, False),
+        ]:
+            cypher = self._get_merge_cypher(src, dst)
+            assert "r.updated_at = timestamp()" in cypher, (
+                f"MERGE path '{label}': missing r.updated_at on CREATE SET"
+            )
+
+
+class TestSoftDeleteWithFilters:
+    """Verify soft-delete works correctly with agent_id and run_id filters."""
+
+    def test_delete_entities_with_agent_id(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg._delete_entities(
+            [{"source": "alice", "destination": "bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}],
+            {"user_id": "user1", "agent_id": "agent1"},
+        )
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        params = mg.graph.query.call_args[1]["params"]
+        assert "SET r.valid = false" in cypher
+        assert "agent_id: $agent_id" in cypher
+        assert params["agent_id"] == "agent1"
+
+    def test_delete_entities_with_run_id(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg._delete_entities(
+            [{"source": "alice", "destination": "bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}],
+            {"user_id": "user1", "run_id": "run1"},
+        )
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        params = mg.graph.query.call_args[1]["params"]
+        assert "SET r.valid = false" in cypher
+        assert "run_id: $run_id" in cypher
+        assert params["run_id"] == "run1"
+
+    def test_get_all_with_agent_id_filters_soft_deleted(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg.get_all(filters={"user_id": "user1", "agent_id": "agent1"}, limit=10)
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        assert "r.valid IS NULL OR r.valid = true" in cypher
+        assert "agent_id: $agent_id" in cypher
+
+    def test_merge_with_agent_id_sets_valid_true(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg._search_source_node = Mock(
+            return_value=[{"elementId(source_candidate)": "id1"}]
+        )
+        mg._search_destination_node = Mock(return_value=[])
+
+        mg._add_entities(
+            [{"source": "alice", "destination": "bob", "relationship": "KNOWS"}],
+            {"user_id": "user1", "agent_id": "agent1"},
+            entity_type_map={},
+        )
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        assert "r.valid = true" in cypher
+        assert "agent_id: $agent_id" in cypher
+
+
+class TestResetAndCleanup:
+    """Verify reset and delete_all use hard-delete (DETACH DELETE)."""
+
+    def test_reset_uses_detach_delete(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg.reset()
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        assert "DETACH DELETE" in cypher
+        assert "valid" not in cypher.lower()
+
+    def test_delete_all_does_not_soft_delete(self):
+        mg = _create_graph_memory()
+        mg.delete_all(filters={"user_id": "user1"})
+
+        cypher = mg.graph.query.call_args[0][0]
+        assert "DETACH DELETE" in cypher
+        assert "r.valid = false" not in cypher